Happiness Unlimited - Know How to live Ever Happy (PART-3)

EPISODE 13 

• Our thoughts are created based on past experiences, the information we take in and most important our belief systems.  
• Other’s appreciation and acceptance has become the foundation of our self-esteem, and so we are always dependent on them to feel good about ourselves.  
• In interactions, when we get hurt, we are unable to see the perspective of the other, and hence are unable to understand them. So to understand others we need to remain stable. 
• People, who accept us today and make us feel good, may not be able to do it tomorrow, and then we feel low with the same people. 
• It’s important to take charge of how we feel, instead of being dependent on others.
• To be INDEPENDENT means to be dependent only on the one inside. 
• Let us be ourselves and not keep changing our behaviour according to the way others behave with us.

EPISODE 14 

• As we become aware of our thoughts, let’s check the belief system from which these arise.
• Anger is needed to get work done.
• We have lived with this belief system and teach our children to grow up with the same.  We like people to deal with us with LOVE, because each of us is a loveful being.
• So everyone around us would like the same. 
• Every time we use anger as the tool, we experience the negative energy as we give it to them.
• They get hurt and their vibrations travel to us. So we get more than we give. 
• Our responsibility is to take care of ourselves, then people and then get the work done.
• Let’s try a new belief system – Love is needed to get work done. 
• When we punish a child, the guilt the child creates disempowers the child.
• Pain can never bring about any realisation, because there will not be the power to transform.

EPISODE 15 

• When we use anger, and others experience fear, we mistake it as respect. Fear creates pain and reduces efficiency of working.  
• The ones, who suppress their anger because of fear, then create ager in the presence of those weaker than them, only to make themselves feel powerful. 
• Fear and respect can never be together. Respect is pure and positive energy, fear is deep negative energy.
• Therefore those who fear us do not respect us. 
• Ego is lack of Self Respect. In any situation, if we react aggressively or get hurt it is our ego, and if we remain stable and have faith in ourselves it is self-respect. 
• Self-Respect means who I am and what I am doing - is the best to my capacity up to the present moment and in the next moment I am ready to change. 
• When we have a strong self-esteem, the power to adjust, accept and mould ourselves in situations will come naturally.

EPISODE 16 

• Spirituality is natural, simple and a very practical way of living.
• Spirituality is not doing things or becoming someone, it is about just being who we truly are. 
• It is not necessary that what the majority believe – is the truth, it is only a belief.
• Let me experiment with the belief, till I am comfortable, and only then accept it as the truth. 
• Let us clean our mind before we meet someone again, so that we do not interact with them through the perspective of our past experiences, because they could have changed. 
• As soon as we start creating thoughts of hurt, let us take out a few minutes to be with ourselves and counsel ourselves with powerful, positive and loveful thoughts. 
• No one can hurt me, and I do not hurt anyone.
• My behaviour can be a trigger for the others, I need to change my behaviour, but I cannot take responsibility of their hurt, it is their creation. 
• Let us take care that we create the right thoughts, so that we can speak what we think, and do not need to pretend or be tactful in our relationships.

EPISODE 17 

• No one can hurt me, and I do not hurt anyone.
• My behaviour can be a trigger for the others, I need to change my behaviour, but I cannot take responsibility of their hurt, it is their creation. 
• People can hold us responsible for their pain, but if we create guilt, then it is negative energy, it depletes our power and hence we are not able to transform. Realise means a mistake once, is not to be repeated. 
• To bring about a transformation I need to know – Why I want to change? What about myself do I want to change? How do I change?
• Unless the Why and what to change is not clear, the How will not get implemented. 
• Everyone around me is an actor, and each one is playing their role.
• Each actor is a pure being. Let me the pure being interact with another pure being, not interact with them on the basis of their roles. 
• When we are natural in our relationships, and accept others as they are, it gives them the freedom to be their natural selves. 
• When I am soul conscious, my consciousness triggers the same consciousness in others, and they are able to experience their purity.

EPISODE 18 

• When we are peaceful and stable, then we are happy, and we accept others as they are, it means we love them, because love is unconditional acceptance. 
• The energy of love is our natural quality. It gets blocked when we become judgemental about people. 
• When we think about other’s weaknesses, then their weakness becomes the quality of our thoughts, and very soon a part of our personality.  
• Let us become aware and observe one quality in everyone we meet and interact with. 
• Let us be in the awareness- ‘I am a loveful being, and so is everyone I meet, and I accept each one as they are’. 
• Accepting people means - their behaviour does not create a disturbance in our mind.
• We tell them what is right but with the energy of love, not rejection.  

EPISODE 19 

• Criticism dis-empowers, de-motivates people.
• Appreciation empowers and energises them.
• Let us be aware that our thoughts should be as sweet as the words we use with people.  We create 25 to 30 thoughts per minute but only a few sentences per minute.
• Thoughts are more in number and travel faster than our words. 
• Let us be liberal with our appreciation, because it gives people the energy to realise and transform their weaknesses.
• We cannot make people realise their weaknesses. What to change and Why to change can be realised by each one only for themselves. 
• Everyone has knowledge, they do not need advice. They need power to change their sanskars that power comes from our love and appreciation. 
• Every thought and word we send out to a little child is being used by them to create an image of themselves, i.e. their self-esteem.